Directions for failing the next generation of gay kids #HIV #AIDS
I wasn’t going to write today, but I have to get this one off my chest. After that, I’m out of here to go take pictures.
While I haven’t had much time to write lately due to an explosion of things at work, I do read the LGBT news cycle daily. I watched the story explode all over the internet about “Pastor” Charles Worley, who wants to corral up all the gays behind a fence like cattle. Predictably, every gay website in existence lost their cookies. The protests mounted, the breast beating of “How they hate us so!” took off. Also predictably, MSNBC picked up the piece as well: (among other news channels)
The 71-year-old Worley delivered the sermon on May 13, Mother’s Day, apparently in response to President Barack Obama’s public endorsement a few days earlier of same-sex marriage. Just a day before Obama’s announcement, North Carolina voters approved by a considerable margin a constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage and same-sex civil unions in their state.
In the sermon, an animated Worley told the congregation of his independent Baptist church:
“I figured a way out, a way to get rid of all the lesbians and queers but I couldn’t get it pass the Congress – build a great big large fence, 50 or a hundred mile long. Put all the lesbians in there, fly over and drop some food. Do the same thing with the queers and the homosexuals. And have that fence electrified so they can’t get out.
“And you know what? In a few years they will die out. You know why? They can’t reproduce. If a man ever has a young’un, praise God he will be the first.”
Worley continued, his voice rising: “I tell ya right now, somebody said, ‘Who you gonna vote for?’ I ain’t gonna vote for a baby killer and a homosexual lover! You said, ‘Did you mean to say that?’ You better believe I did!”
Worley’s speech went viral after the Catawba Valley Citizens Against Hate grabbed a clip from the church’s web site and posted it on YouTube, Reuters reported.
Here’s a secret I’ll let you in on: He wins. This man is an absolute NOBODY, who’s congregation is what? 100 people? I get that number from the MSNBC report above but I’ll believe it when I see the actual church roster. In the meantime, he’s still a fucking nobody. He’s about as relevant as Westboro Baptist Church, who we ALL used to rant and rave about their lunacy, myself included. Where are they now? Out behind the garage, painting up more signs and adjusting their tinfoil hats.
Pastor Wooley is a putz, and not even worthy of .00001% of the attention we’ve thrown him on this.
In the meantime, this loon as been propelled to worldwide notoriety thanks to our unending supply of righteous indignation and he didn’t have to spend a nickel on publicity. Not. One. Cent. Because this is what the LGBT news cycle does: when fools step up to the microphone, we grab our protest signs and position the fastest typist we have at the computer to write out the latest petition.
And we completely ignore the next generation of gay kids one more time. I saw this report today:
Preliminary results from a blockbuster survey of black gay youth, conducted by the National Strategy for Black Gay Youth in America, reveals that 43 percent of black gay youth have thought about or attempted suicide as a result of issues related to their sexual orientation.
Released by Youth Pride Services, the report is the first of three to be released this year.
According to the results, over half of those surveyed fear or have experienced family disownment as a result of coming out of the closet.
- 22 percent experienced mental abuse related to their sexual orientation
- 26 percent experienced anti-gay bullying
- 11 percent are HIV positive; 7 percent do not know their status
- 8 percent have been homeless due to their sexual orientation
- 9 percent have been sexually abused as a result of their sexual orientation
- 10 percent have been physically abused as a result of their sexual orientation
The survey respondents were asked to list items that would make life as a black gay youth more bearable; 90 percent listed “family acceptance,” making it the most popular item in the survey.
Tellingly, Illinois youth placed “race-related issues” second on their collective list. “Race Issues” ranked 8th nationally, suggesting that Illinois black gay youth “might be struggling with racism more than their peers in other parts of the country.”
From the Windy City Times:
“Frank Walker, director of Youth Pride Services in Chicago said that many of the results shocked him.
‘Other people should see these numbers,’ he said. ‘It really does show what it is like to grow up Black and gay in the U.S.’
Walker wants parents who have struggled to accept their LGBTQ children to see the report.
‘If they could take a look at their own child and look at all the issues that this survey reveals and put their own child in their minds… I think it would allow some Black parents to look at it from a different angle,’ he said.”
And these results are shocking why exactly? Just based on the LGBT news cycle (specifically including bloggers), what example are we setting for these kids? It’s real simple:
—Being gay is a friendless, loveless, hopeless grind of pushing the rock up a steep hill – only to have it roll back down again.
—Any forward momentum of your life is completely and totally hinged on your ability to get married. Nothing else matters at all.
—Everybody and their brother hates us, specifically preachers. Every single gay website in the US missed the story that Rabbi Yanklowitz, probably the most influential rabbi in the country came out as a LGBT supporter. They do not, however, miss a single lead-in of a priest who’s not a gay supporter.
—Here, kid: go get your hope from a YouTube video. See? Even the President made one, that ought to cheer you up, and if it doesn’t then let me know. I have the number to a suicide hotline you can call.
Wanna know a secret? Thanks to my son, I know alot of gay kids, and there isn’t a one of them who gives a damn about gay marriage. Most want to know how it feels to fall in love, they want to lose their virginity with that person and have it be the most magical event of their lives, and A LOT of them just want to get through their high school day without getting their head kicked in. I don’t have the time or energy to share with you the on-the-fly comments they’ve shared about the It Gets Better Project. Take a guess though as to what they think about it’s relevancy to their particular lives.
And nobody, I mean nobody is talking to kids about HIV. I did a completely unscientific survey and sent my kid and his boyfriend out to poll every single LGBT kid they could find and ask them this: A: Do you have an adult gay role model you have access to? B: Who is the person in your life (specifically excluding teachers) who’s talked to you one on one about HIV/AIDS? C: do you know your own HIV status? Here’s the unsurprising and incredibly depressing results.
Out of 91 kids:
Question A: Four kids have an LGBT relative who they can have open honest communication with
Question B: Six kids. The four identified above also list that person as their HIV/AIDS resource, and two kid who have that kind of openness with their birth parents.
Question C: One kid
That’s it. Six out of 91. The other 85 are out there swinging in the breeze. Only one of them has a clue what their HIV status is.
We’re the ones who are failing them.
The national survey above had better not surprise anyone, because we aren’t doing jack to counter the downward spiral. We’re waiting for these kids to reach out to us, and we’ve done nothing to establish ourselves as someone/someplace they can turn TO. Guess what? They won’t, because we’ve done nothing to earn that trust.
And kids are dying because of our failure. We can sit around and keyboard cowboy all we want that someone ought to help our kids!
That someone is us.
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